Top 39 Best How To Make Friends Books: Top Picks 2023

How to Make Friends Books

Friendship has many benefits, as we all know. Increase your happiness and decrease your stress. Increase self-confidence, self-worth, and self-worth. You can use this tool to help you deal with traumas such as divorce, serious illness, or job loss. Encourage you to stop drinking excessively or not getting enough exercise.

These are the top How To Make Friends Books to help you make friends and improve your friendships. Continue reading to learn more about making friends books.

How Can I Make Friends?

How Can I Make Friends

There are many ways that you can make friends as an adult. One of the best ways is to join social clubs or groups. There are groups for just about everything these days, whether it’s a book club, yoga class, cooking class, wine tasting group, or anything else you’re interested in. Joining one of these groups will help you meet other people who share your interests.

Another great way to make friends is to volunteer. This is a great way to meet other people who are passionate about helping others. Volunteering also gives you a sense of purpose and can help you feel good about yourself.

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How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Top pick starter book

This book had a huge positive impact on my social life. It’s still highly recommended, despite it being written in the 1930s.

It does a great job of reducing social interaction to set rules that makes us more likable. If you have low self-esteem, social anxiety, or are unable to socialize. It is not the best book.

It is a collection of great principles. It is not an exhaustive guide to social improvement.

This book is recommended for anyone who:

  • Although you are already socially acceptable, you want to become more likable.

This book is NOT for you if…

  • You may be unable to socialize because of low self-esteem and social anxiety. If you are suffering from low self-esteem or social anxiety, I recommend The Social Skills Guidebook.
  • Your primary goal is to build closer friendships. Instead, you should read The Relationship Cure.
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83,266 Reviews

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The Social Skills Guidebook by Chris MacLeod

Top pick most comprehensive

This book is not as mainstream oriented as How to Win Friends. This book is for people who feel their social lives are on the verge of collapse because they’re too shy or don’t connect with others.

The book’s first section focuses on social anxiety, shyness, and low self-confidence. It then discusses how to improve your communication skills. The third is how to make friends and live a more social life.

This book was recommended to me by Win Friends two years ago.

This book is recommended for anyone who:

  • You feel uncomfortable socializing and want to read a book that addresses all aspects of your social life.

This book is NOT for you if…

  • It’s impossible to relate to the anxiety I mentioned above. Instead, learn How to Win Friends and Influence People.
  • A book that focuses only on making conversation is what you want. If this is you, then Conversationally Speaking is the book for you.
  • You can also check out our complete (free) guide to making friends.

Improve Your Social Skills by Dan Wendler

Top pick for people with Aspergers

The book, Improve Your Social Skills shares many similarities with The Social Skills Guidebook. It also covers similar topics. The author is Asperger’s, and the book has become a classic.

It seems unfair to claim that it is only relevant to Aspergers. Anyone interested in learning social skills can benefit from it.

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This book is recommended for anyone who:

  • You are looking to improve your social skills, or you have Asperger’s.

This book is NOT for you if…

  • You are looking for something that encourages you to feel uncomfortable around new people. The Social Skills Guidebook is for you.
  • You aren’t looking to be a social media guru but rather to increase your social interaction. Learn How to Win Friends if you are.
Improve Your Social Skills
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The Fine Art of Small Talk by Debra Fine

Best book on small talk

This book is considered the best on a small talk by many other people and me.

It just takes three hours to read this book cover to cover. Given that it discusses how to handle nervousness in discussions, it’s the ideal conversation book for someone with social anxiety.

Be aware that while the approaches may be used everywhere, many of the examples are in a corporate situation.

Not all of the advice is helpful, and it doesn’t go as far as I believe it should.

Some of the instances in the book are just ridiculous, while others aren’t relevant. But overall, this is the best option if you want a book that’s quick to read and simple to use.

Conversationally Speaking by Alan Garner

Best book on how to make conversation

This book is meant for conversation, while How to Win Friends can improve social skills.

Along with How to Win Friends, this book is a cult classic and has sold over 1 million copies. More than anything else, the goal is to improve your conversational skills: It prioritizes chit-chat with strangers and new acquaintances above developing closer bonds with close friends.

The book was released in 1981, so the language is a little dated, but the techniques are excellent. It doesn’t go into great detail regarding the approaches but instead focuses on providing general knowledge.

It largely relies on research. Sometimes you think, “This is far too apparent,” at the beginning of a chapter. Still, the author offers a fresh perspective on what you previously believed, and you get a new understanding.

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Belong by Radha Agrawal

Top pick for finding people like you

This book focuses on the idea that technology has made us feel less connected. This book teaches you how to reconnect by finding people like you and creating a community with like minded people.

It’ll be most effective for you if it’s in your 20s and 30s. You can also check out The Relationship Cure if you are older than that. This book is great, except for the fact that it’s not about relationships. It is well researched and written. There is a lot of useful advice.

This book is recommended for anyone who:

  • You want to meet people who are like you.

This book is NOT for you if…

  • If you are in your mid-life or higher, then this is the right time. You should read The Relationship Cure.

The Relationship Cure by John Gottman

Top pick for improving existing relationships

The book is about relationships in midlife. It includes friendships with spouses, children, and family members, as well as colleagues. Even though you are younger, the advice is still extremely valuable.

This is a wonderful book! It is very practical. It is possible to be more emotionally present.

I would love to have something negative to say about the book, but that’s not what I can do.

This book is recommended for anyone who:

  • You are looking to improve your relationships.

This book is NOT for you if…

  • You want to make new friends. Learn How to Win Friends if you are.

Marriage and children can bring out the best in friends.

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Friendshifts by Jan Yager

Books specifically for adults

The book is about friendships in the middle of life. It covers having friends while you have children and having friends while you are married. It is called Friendshifts because it focuses on how friendships change our lives.

This book contains a lot of very obvious information. It’s the only book that I have found for middle aged people and has great insights. I recommend it to anyone who wants to learn how to be friends and relate to their friends.

When Friendship Hurts by Jan Yager

Top pick on betrayal by friends

This book covers both failed and toxic relationships. This book is solid, and the same author wrote it as Friendship. This book is much better than the Friendshift one. She has made great strides since then. This book, however, is more focused on adult friendships that have been broken than Friendship.

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Frientimacy by Shasta Nelson

Top pick closer relationships for women

This book is a guide to building closer friendships for women. It is well-written and researched. It discusses how to get closer and connect, toxicity and self-doubt, jealousy, envy, fear of rejection, and toxicity.

Stellar reviews. This book was a great read.

This book is recommended for anyone who:

  • You are an adult woman looking to make friends.

This book is NOT for you if…

  • This book is for adult women who want to make friends. You might also like The Relationship Cure.

Stop Being Lonely by Kira Asatryan

This book focuses on developing closeness. This means that the book focuses on how to build close relationships rather than just superficial ones. It includes closeness with partners and family, but it is mainly about friends.

You must be open minded to appreciate the book. Although a lot of the information seems obvious, reminding yourself to apply it can make it more enjoyable.

The author isn’t a psychiatrist, as in many other books. However, to have wisdom about friendship, you don’t have to be a psychiatrist.

Which type of social overthinker do you identify as?

Although it’s a great book, The Relationship Cure is better.

Messy Beautiful Friendship by Christine Hoover

This book was very well received. It’s difficult to relate to because a wife wrote it of a pastor. This book is perfect for married Christian women. The Relationship Cure is a more comprehensive book about mid life friendships.

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Relationships Are Everything by Ben Weaver

For men on how to improve relationships

The book also focuses on improving your relationships. It’s not about making new friends like the Social Skills Guidebook.

A youth pastor wrote it. (I am confused. Can someone please explain why so many books about friendships are written and edited by pastors?

This one is too boring.

The Unwritten Rules of Friendship by Natalie Madorsky Elman and Eileen Kennedy Moore

For parents to help their young children

This book is the go-to guide for parents looking to teach their children social skills. This book covers several archetypes, such as the vulnerable child and the different drummer, and provides specific advice on how to help each one.

The book is more like a toolbox rather than a complete cover to cover read.

This book has been well reviewed and is one of the top ranked guides I have researched.

This book is recommended for anyone who:

  • A young child is falling behind in social circles.

This book is NOT for you if…

  • Your child is now entering their teens. Instead, you can read The Science of Making Friends.
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Book For parents to help their teens and young adults

The Science of Making Friends by Elizabeth Laugeson

For parents to help their teens and young adults

This book is my top choice for parents who want their children to be happy.

This book is focused on Aspergers and ADHD.

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This book is recommended for anyone who:

  • Aspergers, ADHD, or other disorders may be present in a teen or young adult.

This book is NOT for you if…

  • Your child is capable of reading and motivated to learn. If they are, you can recommend The Social Skills Workbook or Improve Your Social Skills to them.

These books may not be as great as my top picks, but they are still worth reading, or additional reading after you’re done with my top picks.

How To Start A Conversation And Make Friends by Don Gabor

Honorary mentions

This book focuses on making conversation to make friends.

It’s more of a general book and doesn’t get into all the details. It covers the obvious things, not the aha experiences.

Instead, I recommend Conversationally Speaking.

The Science of Likability by Patrick King

Mediocre book on likability

This book teaches you how to attract friends and be charismatic. Although it’s not bad, there are better books on the subject.

This book is not recommended. Instead, you can read How to Win Friends or The Charisma Myth. Both books cover the same topics, but they do it better.

Some of the material feels manipulative, and others are just plain wrong. You’ll probably still be satisfied if you read it. However, the best picks will be your top choices.

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The Friendship Crisis by Marla Paul

A general book with little advice. Nothing new. You can give more friendly advice to someone who is feeling down.

Any book that is higher up in the guide I would recommend.

The Friend Who Got Away by Jenny Offill, Elissa Schappell

Non-actionable book on women’s lost friendships

I have been reading the reviews and skimming through this book. This is the picture that I see: It’s an okay book, but not actionable.

Many people feel that the stories aren’t relevant to them or that they are depressing or hurtful.

For a deeper look at the subject, see When Friendships Hurt.

The Friend Who Got Away:...
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How To Connect With The People In Your Life by Caleb J. Kruse

This book covers everything from making small talk to connecting with people and dealing with rejection.

Although the book is good, I would recommend the books at the beginning of the guide to be read first. They are more thorough, more practical, and more well researched.

How to Make Friends as an Introvert by Nate Nicholson

This book is about how to make friends with introverts. It is very basic and not in-depth enough. For introverts, there are better books like The Social Skills Guidebook.

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Level Up Your Social Life by Daniel Wendler

My newest book is Level Up Your Social Life. I believe it’s my best work yet.

This book was written to assist people in taking practical steps toward a happier social life. To make it simple to remember and learn, I use metaphors from video games to explain social skills. Each lesson ends with a quest, which helps you practice what you have learned in the real world.

This will help you to eliminate the guesswork involved in social success. Learn the metaphors and complete these quests, and you’ll see a gradual improvement over time.

Gamers will most appreciate it, but it will also be a valuable resource for anyone looking to improve their social skills. It’s available now!

Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High by Joseph Grenny

A fight between you or someone you care about can cause the most pain. It takes just a few angry words to hurt someone you care about.

Crucial Conversations is my favorite book about managing conflict. You will be able to solve conflicts without hurting anyone and without misunderstanding. Crucial Conversations show you how to end the conflict without lashing out or withdrawing.

It’s similar to Improve Your Social Skills. It is easy to read and extremely practical. Within weeks, I was already using the principles in Crucial Conversations to resolve a conflict. This book is a must read.

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Switch: How to Change Things When Change Is Hard by Dan Heath

The switch is an easy to read explanation of how you can make change easier, no matter what stage of your life or the world. It is difficult to become more social.

The switch is a guide that will help you become more social. Switch’s principles will help you make your life more social.

What Every BODY Is Saying by Joe Navarro

The body language book What Every BODY is Saying is amazing. Contrary to many body language books that simply list every signal in the body, What Every BODY is Saying focuses only on the most important signals. This makes it easy to apply.

This book is a great way to increase your body language knowledge beyond improving your Social Skills. An ex FBI agent also writes it. The examples are real life examples of how the author uses body language to catch criminals.

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Everybody’s Normal Until You Get To Know Them by John Ortberg, Jay Charles

It is difficult for two porcupines, covered in prickly backs, to get close enough to mating. This is the Porcupine’s Dilemma. How can you get near to other porcupines without getting hurt?

The Porcupine’s dilemma also applies to our human lives. Even though we aren’t covered in spines, there are plenty of ways people can hurt one another in relationships. How can we be close to each other without getting hurt?

It is a great answer to this question. This book explains how to get to know others and what healthy communities look like. It also teaches you how to avoid hurting yourself or others as you build intimacy.

Although the author is a pastor, he writes from a Christian perspective. However, I believe you will benefit from his wisdom regardless of your beliefs. This book was a joy to read.

Life’s Journeys According to Mister Rogers by Fred Rogers

Okay, I will admit it. This book doesn’t just focus on social skills.

It’s about being a friend and finding your true self, and how to love others.

You have Mr. Rogers to remind you of what is most important. Although it is a quick read, you can easily complete it in one afternoon. However, it is filled with deep wisdom. It’s worth a look, and Mr. Rogers will help you navigate your life’s path.

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How To Talk To Anyone by Leil Lowndes

I generally don’t like lists with social skills tips. It’s usually more productive to concentrate on the big picture principles rather than memorizing endless lists of tips and tricks. However, for How To Communicate with Anyone, I’m happy to make an exception.

How to Talk To Anyone contains 92 tips for social interaction. Each tip takes up about a page and can usually be reduced to a few sentences (which the author does at the end of each chapter). They cover a variety of topics, including conversation, remembering names, and making a first impression.

The way the tips are presented is what makes them so special. Lowndes has an uncommon gift for making tips memorable. This is extremely helpful when applying them. Each tip is bite sized, making it easy to learn them one by one. Although not every tip is useful, there are enough gems to make this guide well worth your time.

How to Talk to Anyone: 92...
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How to be a Best Friend Forever: Making and Keeping Lifetime Relationships

Making friends as an adult may be challenging, mainly when we leave behind our school days and childhood pals and begin to feel lonely. But it is possible to form deep, loving friendships. They are also quite significant.

To motivate readers to invest the time necessary to sustain a genuine friendship, Dr. John Townsend provides guidance, suggestions, and tales from his own relationships.

The World Needs Who You Were Made to Be by Joanna Gaines

The second children’s book by New York Times bestselling author Joanna Gaines, The World Needs Who You Were Made to Be, with illustrations by Julianna Swaney, celebrates how imagination and acceptance can join together to create a happy and delightful experience. In the book, a group of kids constructs their very own hot-air balloons one at a time.

We learn that the same is valid for life: it’s more beautiful and colorful when our diversity is recognized as the children collaborate, each using their particular abilities and processes to fill the sky with lovely hues.

The World Needs Who You Were...
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Best Children Books About Making Friends

Picture Books about Making Friends For Children

The Adventures of Beekle: The Unimaginary Friend by Dan Santat

Beekle wishes for a child who can imagine Beekle and give him a name. Alice, his special friend, imagines Beekle. Encourages belonging, friendship, and perseverance.

The Adventures of Beekle: The...
1,121 Reviews

Be a Friend by Salina Yoon

Dennis sees the world differently but is misunderstood and lonely by his classmates. Dennis is the one who kicks an IMAGINARY ball in the playground. He is shocked when a girl kicks it back and begins a new friendship. Promoting open mindedness, interpersonal skills, and self-esteem.

Hello, My Name Is Ruby by Philip C. Stead

Ruby is curious about other birds and introduces herself to them. Ruby’s positive attitude allows her to make new friends and finds her place in the world.

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Boy + Bot by Ame Dyckman

A boy and a robot form an unlikely friendship. Despite not being able to understand each other’s functions, they are open to accepting their differences. Promotes acceptance, diversity, and friendship.

Leonardo, the Terrible Monster by Mo Willems

Mo Willems wrote many books about friendship with Piggies and Gerald. Leonardo, the Terrible Monkey, isn’t very scary. He is quite cute. He doesn’t seem to be able to scare anyone no matter what he does, even Sam. Leonardo learns from Sam that being a good friend is better than trying to be mean.

Leonardo, the Terrible Monster
799 Reviews

The Boys by Jeff Newman

This is a story about a shy boy who, with some guidance, finds the courage and confidence to approach other baseball players. Despite his shyness, he can find the courage to make friends.

The Invisible Boy by Trudy Ludwig

Brian has a hard time making himself stand out. Brian makes friends with a Korean student who helps him feel less alone and confident. Promoting the theme of loneliness, kindness, and good relationships.

The Invisible Boy
3,654 Reviews

Can Cat and Bird Be Friends? by Coll Muir

They can become friends even though they are natural enemies. Bird and cats discover their differences can bring them closer together and help them discover what they have in common.

The Kraken’s Rules for Making Friends by Brittany R. Jacobs

A great white shark offers help to Kraken when he struggles to make friends. They will help the sea monster’s spoiled self find a friend. Encourages courage, problem solving, social skills, and relationship skills.

The Kraken's Rules for Making...
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Best Books On Being Likeable For Kids

FAQs About Best Books On Being Likeable For Kids

1. What is the best age for children to start making friends?

There is no one answer to this question, as every child is different. However, most experts agree that children typically develop friendships around three or four.

2. How can I help my child make friends?

You can do several things to help your child make friends, such as enrolling them in social activities, teaching them social skills, and modeling positive social behavior.

3. What are some common problems that children have when making friends?

Children’s common problems when making friends include shyness, difficulty sharing, and trouble resolving conflicts.

4. What can I do if my child has difficulty making friends?

Suppose your child is having difficulty making friends. In that case, there are several things you can do to help, such as enrolling them in social activities, teaching them social skills, and modeling positive.


Making friends is not easy. It involves some basic social skills that can be acquired through practice. The books listed above are some of the best books on making friends. They will help you to improve your social skills and make new friends.

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